Historical Abuse: Something Bad that Happened in the Past
If something bad happened to you when you were younger, this is called historical abuse. It’s important to know that you’re not alone and that it’s okay to talk about it, no matter how much time has passed.
What is historical abuse?
This isn’t an easy topic to discuss, but it’s a very important one.
Historical abuse can include a range of experiences from physical and sexual harm to neglect and harassment that happened to you when you were younger.
Is it too late to report something that happened to me?
You might be thinking, “but it was so long ago,” or “I don’t even know if it was really that bad.” It doesn’t matter if it happened recently or years ago; what matters is that it happened, and it might still be affecting you now. There is no time limit on reporting abuse.
You might feel confused, scared, angry, or numb. Maybe you’re experiencing a whole mix of emotions, or maybe you’re feeling things you can’t even name. All of that is completely normal. There’s no “right” way to feel after experiencing abuse.
Thinking about making a report can feel incredibly overwhelming. It can bring back painful memories and dealing with those feelings on your own can be really tough. You might worry about not being believed, or about the impact it might have on your life. These are all valid concerns. But remember, you don’t have to carry this burden alone.
Speaking up
One of the most powerful things you can do is talk to someone you trust. This could be a family member, a friend, a teacher, tutor, or youth worker. Sharing your experience can be incredibly liberating, and it can be the first step towards healing.
Reporting to the authorities
When you feel ready, you can also report what happened to the authorities directly. You can contact your local police on the non-emergency number, 101, or make an appointment at your nearest police station.
Reporting can feel scary, and that’s understandable. Know that the police and other support services are there to listen to you without judgment. Their priority is to ensure your safety and help you understand all your options.
Support services
There are lots of great support services available that offer tailored support for abuse-related issues. You could check out their websites and explore the support they offer before taking any action.
Victim Support is a charity dedicated to supporting victims of crime in England and Wales. They offer a range of free and confidential services, including emotional support, practical advice, and advocacy. They can help you understand your rights, navigate the criminal justice system, and cope with the impact of crime. Their services are available to anyone affected by crime, regardless of whether it was reported to the police or how long ago it happened. You can contact them by phone (0808 1689 111) or through the Victim Support website.
The Live Fear Free Helpline is a 24/7 confidential helpline for anyone experiencing violence against women, domestic abuse, or sexual violence in Wales. The helpline is offered by Welsh Women’s Aid. They provide emotional support, information, and practical advice. They can also connect you with local support services in your area. Whether you’re experiencing abuse yourself, or you’re concerned about someone else, the Live Fear Free Helpline can offer support and guidance.
The NSPCC is a children’s charity fighting to end child abuse in the UK. They offer a range of services, including a confidential helpline called Childline, information and advice for children and adults, and support for survivors of child abuse. They also campaign for changes in the law and work to prevent child abuse from happening in the first place. If you’re worried about a child, or you’re a survivor of child abuse, the NSPCC can offer help and support. They have specific resources for adults who have experienced abuse in childhood.
Looking after yourself
Speaking up about historical abuse takes immense courage. Whether you choose to report or not, the decision is entirely yours. It’s okay if you’re not ready yet. Prioritise your wellbeing and make sure you’re not forced to take action you don’t want to. Take things one day at a time, and remember that support is available to you, regardless of the choices you make.
Talk with Meic
If you’re unsure who to talk to, consider reaching out to Meic. We offer confidential support through phone, WhatsApp message, text, and online chat. We are here to listen and can help you understand your options.
