Not Going to University? Dealing with the FOMO
After college or sixth form, many people choose to go to university. But for some, other paths might be more suitable. If you’ve decided to skip university, it’s a big decision that can come with a range of emotions.
One common feeling is being left behind. As your friends embark on their university adventures, you might worry about losing touch and missing out on life-changing experiences.
Let’s talk about how to deal with these feelings and why your path is just as valid.
Losing Friends
It’s normal to feel a bit anxious about the future, especially at a time in your life when there’s so much changing for both you and your social circle. You might worry about losing touch with friends as their lives change.
Distance doesn’t have to mean disconnection. Make a conscious effort to keep in touch through regular calls, video chats, or planned visits. Even small gestures like sending a quick message or sharing a meme can help maintain your friendships.
Missing Out
University can be a time of great personal growth and fun. It’s okay to feel a little envious but remind yourself that your journey will be unique and equally rewarding. Instead of focusing on what you’re missing, try to appreciate the opportunities and experiences that come with your chosen path.
If you’ve decided not to go to university, you may find yourself with a lot of free time. Take this as an opportunity for self-discovery. Without the pressures of university, you have more time to explore your interests and passions. Try new hobbies, travel, or volunteer.
The flexibility of not being tied down to a specific career path or location can be liberating. Embrace this freedom and use it to your advantage.
Feeling lonely
After your friends have left for university, you might feel a bit lonely, especially if you live in a rural area. However, university isn’t the only way to make friends as a young adult.
Look for clubs or groups to join in your local area that meet to do things you’re interested in. You might also find online communities where you can connect with people who share your experiences, goals, and passions.
Volunteering is another great way to meet like-minded people and make a difference while gaining valuable experience. This can help you explore your interests and discover what you like and dislike.
Comparison
It’s natural to feel a bit of FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) as your friends share their university experiences on social media. Remember that your friends are likely to share their highlights, and there may be more going on behind the scenes that they aren’t sharing.
Limit your social media use and take a break from platforms that make you feel inadequate or left out. Instead, reach out to your friends directly by text, video call, or phone to check in on them and share your life updates. Connecting directly feels more personal and genuine and can help you stay close across the distance.
Comparison can be the thief of joy. It’s important to focus on your own experiences and avoid comparing your life to others. Remember that there’s no “right way” of doing things – everyone is on their own path.
Your path is your own
Take time to celebrate your achievements. Acknowledge your successes and accomplishments, no matter how small. This can boost your confidence and help you stay motivated.
The most important thing is to follow your heart. Whether you’re going to university or not, your path is just as valid. Don’t let societal pressure or the fear of missing out dictate your decisions.
You’re not alone. There are many people who have chosen a different path and have found great success and happiness. Embrace your journey and trust in yourself.
Need someone to talk to as you navigate this new change in your life? You can reach out to Meic for free, confidential advice and guidance.
