How To Manage Long Distance Relationships at University
Navigating a Long Distance Relationship (LDR) while juggling the change of lifestyle at university can be challenging.
Amidst attending lectures, completing assignments, spending time with friends, working, being involved in societies and having time for yourself, it can be difficult to maintain an LDR, but it’s definitely doable.
Many students successfully maintain strong, fulfilling relationships across distances.
If you’re considering ending the relationship due to fear or uncertainty, take a step back and evaluate your reasons. Don’t let fear dictate your choices. If you truly believe in your relationship, fight for it.
This blog post will explore some of the common worries you might face when being in an LDR at university and provide some tips to help you keep your relationship alive and thriving.
Fear of growing apart
It’s natural to worry that you and your partner might drift apart over time, but communication is key. Share your experiences, dreams, and challenges to maintain a strong emotional relationship.
Make a conscious effort to have regular video calls or phone calls, and send text messages to check in on each other. You don’t have to be talking all the time though! Leave space for you and your partner to make the most of your university experience.
You can still do things whilst you’re apart. Find common ground and activities that you both enjoy. Whether it’s watching a movie together online, playing online games, or working towards a shared goal, having shared interests can strengthen your connection.
Encourage and support each other’s academic and personal aspirations. Celebrate each other’s successes and be there for each other during challenging times.
Lack of physical intimacy
Physical intimacy can be an essential part of most relationships. While you can’t be physically together all the time, explore creative ways to bridge the gap. Send handwritten letters, surprise each other with small gifts, or plan virtual date nights.
Plan regular visits during holidays, reading weeks, or weekends. These face-to-face interactions are invaluable for strengthening your bond and keeping the spark alive.
Jealousy and insecurity
It’s normal to feel a pang of jealousy or insecurity when your partner meets new people and starts spending time with others, especially if you don’t know them or their intentions. However, it’s important to trust your partner and communicate openly about your feelings. Reassure each other of your commitment and work together to build trust.
Talk about your expectations for the relationship, including how often you’ll keep in touch, how you’ll handle social situations like someone asking for your number or flirting, and how you’ll deal with jealousy or insecurity. Setting clear boundaries can help prevent misunderstandings and conflicts.
Stress and loneliness
University life can be overwhelming, and being in an LDR can amplify feelings of stress and loneliness. Find healthy coping mechanisms like exercise, meditation, or spending time with friends and family. Prioritise self-care and make time for activities that bring you joy.
Maintaining long distance relationships requires effort, commitment, and open communication. By talking openly with your partner, you’ll be able to listen to your worries and create a plan to beat the distance.
If you’re struggling with an LDR, chat with our non-judgement, friendly helpline advisers at Meic. We offer free information, advice and advocacy by phone, WhatsApp message, text, or online chat. Open every day from 8am to midnight, we’re someone on your side.
