Understanding Stammering and How to Get Support
Everyone wants to feel heard, but for some people, speaking can be a real challenge. Stammering (also known as stuttering) can make it harder to say what you want, when you want.
If you stammer or know someone who does, this blog is for you. We’ll look at what stammering is and how you can find support or be a great friend.
What is stammering?
Stammering is when your speech flow is interrupted. You might repeat sounds or words, like “w-w-w-what”, or you might stretch out sounds, like “ssssssso.” Sometimes, you might find yourself stuck. You may be unable to get a sound out at all. These are called blocks. Stammering is not your fault. It is not a sign of nervousness or shyness. It’s simply how some people’s brains process speech.
Some famous people have come forward to share their experience of having a stammer, like Ed Sheeran and Emily Blunt! Other people, like Jessie Yendel, use social media to raise awareness of stammering and share what it’s like and have since become very well known.
How stammering can feel
Living with a stammer can be tough. It might make you feel anxious about speaking in front of others. You might worry about ordering food or about answering questions in class. This can sometimes lead to avoiding certain words or situations, as you might feel frustrated or embarrassed. It’s important to remember that these feelings are normal and you’re not alone in feeling this way.
Stammering can also change day-to-day. Some days might be easier than others. Certain situations can make it more noticeable. For example, when you’re tired, excited, or under pressure.
Getting support for stammering
If you stammer, there’s a lot of help available. The first step is often talking to an adult you trust, like a parent, teacher, or another family member. They can help you find professional support.
A speech and language therapist (SLT) is a specialist who can help with stammering. They can teach you techniques to help manage your speech. They can also help you feel more confident when speaking. It’s about finding what works best for you. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. It can make a real difference.
Supporting someone who stammers
Being a good friend or family member is about being understanding and patient. If you know someone who stammers, here are some things you can do:
- Listen patiently: Let them finish their sentences. Don’t interrupt or try to finish their words for them.
- Make eye contact: Show them you’re listening by looking at them.
- Don’t offer advice: Unless they ask for it, try not to give tips like “just relax.” It often isn’t helpful.
- Treat them normally: Focus on what they are saying, not how they are saying it. They are still the same person!
- Be an ally: If someone makes fun of their stammer, stand up for them.
Remember, patience and kindness go a long way.
You are more than your stammer
Your voice is important. Stammering is just one part of who you are – it doesn’t define you. Focus on your strengths and all the amazing things you can do. Don’t let stammering stop you from achieving your goals.
If you’re struggling with how you feel about your stammer, remember Meic is here to help. You can contact us for free information, advice and advocacy. We can help you find local services or just be there to listen.
